"My Inspiration for Writing LOVING ME FIRST" by Dr. C.P. White (plus some book reviews)

I vividly recall the day that I made the decision to write my book.  I was living in Iraq at that time and we had just experienced a bombing.  I was sitting in a bunker; a gentleman sitting next to me whispered, “I wish I had got things right with my wife last night.”   I replied to him, “Is there anything specific that you want me to tell her? I’m getting out of here alive and I will be happy to share your words.”  Realizing the intensity of the moment, I jokingly said to him, “I need you to move to the other end of the bunker because this is the surviving end.”  We all laughed.  I began to ask others in the bunker what they wanted me to share with family members or the world.  It was important to me to share their story, insights and experiences, especially considering the reality that they may not return home.

From that day forward, each time there was a bombing, I asked people to share their thoughts about relationships.  These discussions moved beyond the bunkers to various locations. I spoke with men and women representing 25 different countries.  Three common themes emerged: communication, sexual intimacy and emotional pain; similar to my observations with patients in the United States. 

Loving Me First is divided up into three sections; each section discussing one of the common variables. The book also includes eight steps to transform your life and activate happiness.  I am hopeful that each reader will complete a self- assessment, heal, be happy, and enjoy an enriched quality of life. 


The book is a comprehensive guide to a healthy and happy life.  It discusses proven cognitive behavioral techniques designed to challenge the way that you think and process information.  

Empower your mind to take control of your life… 

Enhance your relationship intimacy… 

Enrich your life with tools for healing… 

Enable yourself to move forward with purpose, hope and happiness…

Experience happiness



What people are saying about Loving Me First:

“Wisdom, illuminated and applied. A comprehensive guide to rebuilding a sense of personal power and value.  This book is a generous gift that can enhance your way of being in the world. Each topic is deserving of full discussion.  Bravo… exceptionally done.”

- Dwayne Buckingham, Ph.D., president of R.E.A.L. Horizons Consulting Service and six-time author.

This book is compelling; it speaks to the heart.  It tactfully discusses taboo topics, communication, sex, and emotional healing from pain.  The information is applicable to anyone, regardless of relationship status. The tone is neutral, genderless, and ageless; the content is priceless! If you want to experience happiness, read the book.  The suggestions in the book positively changed my life.  What could be more wonderful than this? I highly recommend this book.

- Gary Smith, M.D., Interventional Radiologist.

“This book is powerful and empowering. Dr. White recognizes the complexity of human relationships from an international perspective.  This carefully written, cognitively-oriented self-help book offers a systematic approach with eight insights to transform and change your life. The book is high content with valuable, relevant, current, information.  A must read! ”

- Quindola Crowley, Ph.D., author of Triumphs of the Ordinary Woman

This 5 Star book might change your life too!

Author Bio

Dr. C.P. White is a psychotherapist and native Texan who has been writing articles for federal agencies, the military, and private sector organizations for greater than ten years.  She began writing for the Department of State Medical Services Department four years ago and continues to provide writing services. 

She has a Ph.D. in Human and Community Services; this has given her a broad base from which to write about many topics.  Dr. White has lived and worked in the United States and  internationally providing clinical individual, family, and group psycho-education classes. 

Dr. White especially enjoys writing articles designed to meet the unique needs of U.S. Diplomats and civil servants throughout the world.  Her writing skills may be confirmed by accessing the U.S. Department of State “State of Mind” monthly publications and the Tigris Times Newspaper. 

Utilizing a positive psychology approach, she recently published a book titled, Loving Me First, a unisex, self-Help book that explores communication, intimacy, and emotional healing from a cross-cultural perspective.  




  1. I purchased this book on Amazon and really enjoyed reading it. The author's thoughts and insight have contributed greatly to many conversations I have had with my single and married friends. It's a great read!


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